To be honest all you need is a flow reducing adaptor, which is basically an adaptor with a small hole in it that will reduce the flow. yes your machine may sound under load, but it will only be for seconds and do absolutely no harm to the machine
Yep, I'm with
@CPS on this one, think this is being over complicated. Just pop a valve in the ram to reduce flow, not in the machine auxiliary circuit (not good as it would quickly knacker breakers and flails) then it would slow the operation to a rate set by the valve. The loading of the pump wouldn't be a problem. As for heating the hydraulics, I'd guarantee much less than using a breaker or flail...
The best solution is a three way flow control valve such as this:
https://www.flowfitonline.com/hydra...es/hydraulic-3-way-flow-control-valve-vpr3-38
With a check valve plumbing into the (B) port so that as you send the ram in the other direction flow isn't looped back and works against the ram.
Using this method would mean the thumb could open at a rate set by the flow valve and any excess pressure bled into the other ram port and returned via spool block to tank. The valve I've attached a link to doesn't need a return to tank.... This is how I would tackle the problem, but then I do like to go the extra mile and have things perfect.
A step up would be a CETOP 3 block with some PWM valves and feed it off your auxiliary service. But this would cost thousands not hundreds and adds a lot of complexity. A bit of hardware/software could switch the auxiliary service on and off as the oil flow was required thus saving heating the oil by pumping in a constant loop. But how far do you really want to take it?
Sorry if this is a bit technical, it hopefully lays out the options available, but probably highlights just how complex the more expensive systems can be. At which point you need the right person to install/configure your setup.